No longer get in your own way and MUSTER ALL YOUR COURAGE!

10 steps for women who eventually want to fulfil their potential

“Do not be too shy and hesitant in your actions. The entire life is an experiment. The more you experiment, the better.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

Nothing ventured, nothing gained! This is not a new revelation, but the lost chance on inspiring experiences, necessary changes, or important steps forward.

Life without calculable risk remains shallow, just like a boring watery soup. And the colourful life might roll past you while you are incapable of making a decision because of doubts and despondency.

Where do you actually stand in your present life?

Maybe in your life there are also a few brave steps waiting for you? What about the following questions for a brief self-reflection:

  • Do you find your life an obstacle run?
  • Are you facing a decision you are scared of, and you do not want to commit yourself?
  • Do you implement your wishes and dreams?
  • Do you act too impulsively because thinking too much scares you?
  • Are you dreaming of adventures which will never happen?
  • Do you leave important decisions about you and your life to other people?
  • Do you tend to be pessimistic?

It is important to listen to your feelings when making decisions. But be aware how strongly your gut feeling can be influenced by artificially construed fears.

Your fellow people’s remarks may energetically weigh you down and unsettle you. These people haven’t got enough courage themselves, or they do not want you to walk your path determinedly, and to make your decisions bravely, just because they fail in doing so.

Do not be misled! Courage can be trained, just like muscles!

How to get out of the despondency trap:

  • Make your decisions rationally, if you are emotionally insecure, and do not know what is right or wrong.
  • Get plenty of information before you make significant changes in your life.
  • Grab the opportunities for change which life offers you, and do not let them roll past you.
  • Do not only prepare plan A, but also plan B (or even plan C).
  • If you feel insecure, take small steps to get closer to your aim.
  • Learn to distinguish between rational and irrational thoughts which might have a negative influence on your decision.
  • Realize that there is no life without risks, unless you spend the rest of your life in bed (and even there you might feel claustrophobic).

Nothing ventured, nothing gained! But if you are courageous, step by step you will become more confident, you will suffer less from mental stress, you will see your aims more clearly, and eventually reach them through increased willpower. And one day you will have forgotten what you were scared of.




While the majority of fashion magazines are still obsessed with very young and anorexic models, an absolutely relaxed Vanessa Redgrave poses in front of the camera. In her role as a Gucci model she makes a quiet statement, which, however, was followed by a considerable amount of press reaction.

The Italian fashion house could attract the British actress as the figurehead for their 2017 collection, and made her the star of the whole campaign. Chief designer Alessandro Michele approached the actress, who we know from films such as ‘Howards End’ or ‘Foxcatcher’.


The photo-shootings for the Gucci-cruise-collection 2017 took place in England, at Chatsworth House, the home of the Duke and Duchess of Devonshire. The photos show an extremely romantic environment, which should inspire us to put on one of Grandmother’s skirts, in addition to our own wardrobe.

Whereas more and more curvy models can be seen on the catwalks, there are still only a few models aged 60+ or 70+. There is the strong suspicion that designers’ motivation is not the urge to provide ‘curvy women’ with chic dresses, but to open a new market segment. And this segment seems to be more interesting and promising than the 60+ or 70+ customers.

However, I find it extremely enjoyable that an increasing number of women, no matter whether they are tall or short, well-built or slim, old or young, dress in a feminine style, and according to their personal taste. Thus emphasizing their personality.



Do you sometimes move through life like a car that has the parking brake put on?

Do you block yourself because you are still chasing completely exaggerated or outdated ideas?

Are you continuously restricted by rigid patterns of thought and behaviour as well as by influences of your childhood?

Do your blockages swallow up too much of your energy, which you could apply more sensibly and profitably for your potential?

… Maybe you do not even notice your blockages in everyday life anymore …

… because they have become a part of you – or you have become a part of them,

… because you have always been that way and have not even hit on the idea to have a closer look at your “brake pads” yet, or

… because you are afraid or too lazy to have a closer look at your blockages and therefore are unable to understand in which patterns you are stuck or on which beaten tracks your life runs.


I invite you to ponder over the following prompts at least once:

Step 1: Lay your self-pity to rest!

  • Do you sometimes think that things are easier for other people than they are for yourself?
  • Are you convinced that nobody is able to understand how big your problems are?
  • Do you have the feeling that life treats you unfairly?
  • Do you tend to speak of negative rather than positive things?
  • Do you think that your cares are bigger than most other people’s?

It is very simple to fall into the trap of self-pity and get stuck there. But as long as you are caught in this trap, you will be unable to make changes to yourself or your situation. As soon as you have freed yourself from your trap of self-pity, you will have new energies at your disposal that will help you take your life into your own hands.

Step 2: Forsake your stubbornness!

  • Are you holding on to past events?
  • Are you cleaving to your fixed ideas?
  • Are you unable to revise your opinion?
  • Do you have difficulty being a team player?
  • Are you leery of others?

It is rarely expedient to try to command everything and everybody. Frequently, paralysing fear is at the bottom of control addiction and the inability to let go of fixed ideas. It is really too bad that you waste so much energy, which you could apply much more profitably, through your fixation, stubbornness or fear of losing control.

Step 3: Pick yourself up after a failure!

  • Are you afraid to even think about a possible defeat?
  • Do you receive your self-worth from your success?
  • Are you afraid of looking like a loser to others?
  • Are you daunted by failure?
  • Do you resort to excuses when your plans do not work out?

Perhaps you should have a closer look at the subjects of failure, defeat and frustration, because it is possible that you feel like so many other people to whom failure is completely unacceptable. Many of us have been designed for success from an early age onwards, which is why failure is not tolerable or at least very difficult to tolerate for them. But maybe we should accept failure as an important part of our personal developmental process?

Step 4: Learn to cherish solitude!

  • Do you sometimes go to the restaurant, cinema or a concert alone?
  • Are you of the opinion that being alone is boring?
  • Do you continuously surround yourself with other people or are you continuously talking to someone on the mobile phone?
  • Do you think that meditations or keeping a diary are a complete waste of time?
  • Are the TV or the radio on in the background when you are alone at home?

Nowadays, it is simple to communicate with other people at the flick of a switch, no matter where they are right now. Maybe you have forgotten how to be alone, maybe you feel impelled to communicate with others all the time. Quite frequently fear of loneliness or of insignificance are at the bottom of this kind of behaviour. Isn’t it about time that you let go of these blockages?

Step 5: Give up your impatience!

  • Do you always want things to be attended to immediately?
  • Are you annoyed when others are unable to keep up with your speed?
  • Are you convinced that things will not work out if you cannot see results immediately?
  • Are you of the opinion that everything has to happen fast in life?
  • Is the proverb “Rome wasn’t built in a day” incompatible with your philosophy of life?

Time flies – and you with it. Maybe you often have the feeling that you could miss out on something if you are unable to keep up. Maybe you simply overrate your chances of arriving at a result more quickly or you would even like to take counter-productive shortcuts in your developmental process sometimes. Frequently, the realisation that change needs time can prove very helpful, just like grape juice, which can only mature into noble wine when stored for an adequate amount of time.

Step 6: Let go of your fear of change!

  • Do you have difficulty facing decisions?
  • Do you dread leaving your comfort zone?
  • Are you thinking a lot about changes, but keep postponing them?
  • Are you afraid to change your daily routine?
  • Do you have difficulty implementing and seeing through planned changes?

If you are scared of changes, you will probably find yourself in a dead end one day. After all, life means change, on a large and on a small scale: You won’t be able to learn new things, your quality of life won’t improve and your problems won’t vanish into thin air on their own if you do not have the courage for changes. The longer you postpone these changes, the more energy you will have to muster to see them through.

Step 7: Brace up!

  • Do you sometimes dream of travels and adventures, but do not have the courage to make your dreams come true?
  • Do you always imagine the worst-case scenario?
  • Do you leave decisions to other people, so that you do not have to decide for yourself?
  • Have you already forfeited once-in-a-lifetime opportunities?
  • Do you avoid taking risks because you are afraid of possible dangers or failures?

Maybe you grew up in a pessimistic or anxious environment. Maybe nobody has set you the example that it sometimes needs courage to take a calculable risk in order to give one’s life the decisive turn. Maybe you are a safety freak and cut yourself off from the many opportunities life has to offer due to your lack of daring. But: “No risk, no reward!” If you are too afraid of realigning yourself, you will never be able to go from A to B in life.

Step 8: Learn from your mistakes!

  • Do you make others the scapegoat for your mistakes?
  • Do you allow enough time for looking for solutions for a problem?
  • Do you find it tedious to look for alternatives?
  • Do have difficulty giving up inhibiting habits?
  • Do you sometimes think: “I am never going to do that again!” but do it again anyway?

If you want to learn from your mistakes, you won’t be able to avoid honest self-reflection. It is important to have a close look at what has gone wrong, what has been your contribution to a mistake and what you are trying to push to the back of your mind because you refuse to believe it. Mind the warning signs that are trying to show you that you have pursued the wrong path before going on. You need a healthy dose of self-responsibility in order to learn from your mistakes and be eventually able to benefit from them.

Step 9: Do not cede your power to others!

  • Does your well-being depend on how kindly others treat you?
  • Do you do things because others have persuaded you to do them, because they badger you or expect you to do them, without in fact wanting to do those things?
  • Do you have difficulty setting bounds to others and saying NO?
  • Do you think a lot about how you can win over other people?
  • Is it important to you to be in everybody’s good books, because you want others to think highly of you?

As long as you give others power over yourself, you will feel dependent, uncomfortable and eventually unhappy. You will be dependent on others, because your feelings are bound to their opinion. You allow others to determine your self-esteem. You are becoming more and more sensitive to their criticism and turn like a weather vane in order to please them. Isn’t it about time to stop doing that?

Step 10: Rejoice over other people’s happiness/success!

  • Do you envy others instead of being delighted for them because they have made their dreams a reality?
  • Do you have difficulty being on friendly terms with or spending time with people who earn more money than you do?
  • Do you sometimes gloat over other people’s misfortunes?
  • Are you unwilling to listen to other people’s success stories?
  • Do you sometimes feign to be happier or wealthier than is actually the case?

Do you know the difference between envy and jealousy? Jealous people think: “I want to have/be able to do what you have/are able to do!” But envious people think: “I want to have/be able to do what you have/are able to do, but I do not want you to have it/be able to do it!” Jealousy – if it is not too pronounced – can be a corrective, but envy is highly unhealthy! It is grounded on deep feelings of insecurity and problems of self-worth – and certainly does not get you anywhere.

If you want to tap your full potential, then you should start with becoming fully aware of your blockages in order to dissolve them gradually. After all, they waste a lot of your energies. Whatever you have planned for this life … stop being your own worst enemy!


Women Women&Consciousness


Right from the start, I want to make it clear that this is no religious article, because I would not be the right person for that. But it gives one cause for thought when we keep hearing about God the Father without any mention of a woman at his side.

Actually it would be logical and would correspond with mankind’s dualistic thinking if there were also a female version of the male-dominated image of God. It was the nature of ancient religions, for instance, for the Greeks and Romans, that there were Goddesses next to the Gods. But now many people think of esoteric fantasy figures when they hear the word Goddess.


Before the patriarchally oriented religions suppressed the old sanctuaries and traditions of the mother-religions, all over Europe and in the main parts of Asia people worshipped the triune Great Mother as the central deity. She was the Goddess of love, fertility and death in one person. Her heyday was between 10.000 and 2.000 B.C. Huge monuments, temples and temple-like complexes, stone circles, hill mounds, cave-paintings, carved and clay figures with characteristic fertility features, testified to a common worship of the Great Goddess.

Towards the end of this epoch the unthinkable happened. Martial hordes of men ransacked the peaceful peoples, killed men, boys, old people, and took women and girls as their prisoners. They subjugated the people and installed themselves as rulers on the newly-erected throne.  This was the beginning of the end of the mother-religions.

Ironically, in our modern and enlightened times, where religious life has drastically lost its importance, an increasing number of women turn to the Great Goddess again. It does not need a new religion to rediscover and recognize the divine feminine inside us, and integrate it in our everyday life. By allowing the female primordial power in our lives, we connect with all the women of the world through the morphogenetic field (1). And, therefore, with the Goddess aspect which every woman holds.


Many women, who have grown up in a patriarchally oriented religion, find it hard to suddenly imagine God as a woman and trust in a female divine source. But this is not really the point. I personally do not believe in a God in heaven and, therefore, will not believe in a Goddess in heaven. Reviving the belief in a Great Goddess contains an important aspect: the divine is inside us, and not outside. Therefore, the Great Goddess is also an aspect of our femininity.

I would like to quote KRYON/Lee Carroll from the book ‘Lifting the Veil’ (2) as something to make us think:


“Imagine for a moment that Earth was made up of all dogs. No humans, just dogs. And imagine that dogs had your intelligence. Evolution had somehow gone differently, and intelligent dogs now ran the world, just like you do now. They also have their problems, just like you do now. And dogs, just like you, have their own spiritual thoughts on what God must be like, and naturally they have religion, they pray and ponder and have intellectual ideas, just like you.

Now, if I could take you to this metaphoric place where all of these intelligent dogs lived in their civilisation, let me tell you what their religion would look like. First of all, God would be a dog! And each breed of dog would have a photo of God represented as their own breed, of course. All of the angels would be dogs with wings and one of the things they would do would be to constantly smell each other! How far do you want me to go with this? You know what’s coming next, don’t you? Society’s proof that God is a dog is that the very name of their kind, spelled backwards, is God! Shall I continue? And you know, even though it’s funny, that I’m right.”

Therefore, fellow women, do not look for the Goddess as a female counterpart of God on the outside, but inside yourselves. This is the only place you will find her! Just like Yin would be incomplete without Yang, and Yang without Yin, it needs a male and female aspect of God. The latter all women carry inside us, we only have to rediscover it, and consciously live it!

(1) energetic field of the mass consciousness

(2) Carroll, Lee: Kryon. Lifting the Veil, The Kryon Writings, Inc., p. 65-66



10 Steps for women who finally want to fulfil their potential

James Gordon says that there is no such thing as people with or without willpower… There are people who are ready for change, and those who are not.

Fear of change … who does not know this? No matter whether it is a job change, a separation, a move, or a stylistic type of change. Many people are scared of not being able to cope with change, of making the wrong decision, or being criticized or rejected by others due to change.

Then there are the changes which are beyond our control. They strike us from the outside, such as being abandoned, losing a dear person or being faced with an illness.

Life is like a string of pearls full of changes

However, let’s stick with those changes we can decide upon, we can influence and consciously control.

It might be worth remembering that our life is a continual stream of changes, no matter whether we want them or not. They are either the result of certain stages in life, such as

pregnancy – birth – infancy – childhood –  puberty – adulthood – death,

or own decisions – and, of course changes of other people who we are closely connected with.

How to successfully handle changes

Some changes are rejected from the start, and therefore, blighted, before they have even been well thought out. It would be helpful to write down the pros and cons to gain an overview of the possible effects of a change. Sometimes our gut feelings play a trick on us, but as soon as we put the facts down, our fears are shrinking.

Sometimes life is almost crying out for change but we simply do not want to think about it, due to the strain and consequences. However, many of the things we do not change, will be changed through others … not always to our advantage!

Everything has got its time quality, therefore the right time for change is very important. If we postpone changes, we might miss the ideal time, which consequently results in more effort or hassle. We may be pushed into a passive role which stops us from being able to make our own decisions.

It may also occur that we blandish situations that should be changed, until we find no real need for change anymore. This head-in-the-sand policy only offers supposed protection for a short time, but may end up in a real mess.

We have often said to others, ‘I can’t’, whereas we really mean ‘I don’t want to, leave me alone!’ Which brings us back to the quotation at the start. Of course, there are situations, where we have been weakened, or we are mentally not capable of generating changes on a large scale. But we should honestly question ourselves as to whether we are using an excuse.

Needless to say, there are situations in life which confront us with changes, we cannot, or we can hardly influence. However, all the really important decisions may turn our life upside down, but, in the long term, contain the chance of a much better quality in life, or a personal developing step. Believe me, I know what I am talking about!



This is a suggestion from the book ‚Wonnestunden‘ (1) for an aphrodisiac oil mixture for a beautiful bath with a partner.


  • a handful of sea salt
  • 5 drops of cinnamon oil
  • 3 drops of peppermint oil
  • 6 drops of patchouli oil
  • 3 drops of vanilla oil

Mix the oils with the sea salt before you add them to your bath water. Remember that you should only use high quality oils!

This mixture of scents is supposed to provide a promising, sensual, intoxicating atmosphere.

Warning: essential oils can cause allergic reactions. Therefore, first try a little of the oil on your lower arm, before applying. Pregnant women may react to cinnamon and peppermint oil. Use organic oils, if possible.

(1) Krahl, Gisela; Riepe, Andrea: Wonnestunden Reinbeck 1995 (currently out of print)



Every woman bears female spirituality, whether she is aware of it or not. Whether she accepts this fact or not. Whether she finds it embarrassing or not. Whether she finds it ridiculous or not. To reconnect with their female spirituality, women neither have to read spiritual, religious or esoteric books, nor do they have to attend courses of this sort.

In mythology the spiritual woman has always been called the great wise one, primeval woman, the knowing or the great goddess. Old tradition portrays her as the life-giving creator and nourishing mother. At the same time, she is healer and destroyer in one. But what has this got to do with the 7th female chakra? Let’s have a look at some typical statements, which usually occur, when women are denied the right to spirituality.


  • “Eve seduced Adam. She was the first sinner.”
  • “Women should not be allowed to perform religious ceremonies/actions.”
  • “Religion is men’s privilege.”
  • “Women are unclean (particularly during menstruation).”
  • “This woman is a witch. There is something strange about her activities.”
  • “Women should be excluded from religious/spiritual activities.”
  • “Catholic women are not allowed to become priests, bishops or pope.”
  • “Priests are not allowed to marry so that they are not distracted from their church office by wives and children.”
  • “I am not surprised women landed on the stake in former times.


The seventh chakra or energy centre is located in the middle of the head and is opened towards the top. Through this chakra women, as well as men, are connected with the mystical, the universal, the divine, or whatever you want to call it. Hence, a higher level of awareness or creation.

In the relationship with the divine women have always played a dominant role – even in the patriarchal religions. However, this has often been written out of history, and up to now this important role of women is often kept secret.

Particularly now, in these scientifically orientated times, many women neglect their female spirituality. Maybe it’s because they think spirituality and religion is the same, and they do not want to identify with the church and religion. But, at the same time, an increasing number of women are looking for themselves. They have got stuck in a dead-end-road or have other problems. In the course of the search they discover their natural and intuitive access to spirituality. Some even open up for the spiritual world, contacting their higher self, or other spiritual beings for the first time in their lives.


  • Being closed for spiritual topics
  • Not trusting the impulses from above
  • Not recognizing one’s own divinity
  • Confusing religiosity with spirituality
  • Not allowing female spirituality
  • Lacking trust in the guidance of spirit guides
  • Blocked or weak development of consciousness
  • Neglecting higher beings, such as angels
  • Dismissing spirituality as trifles

The following table (according to C.N. Shealy and C.M. Myss, The Creation of Health, 1983) shows what disorders can be related to a weak seventh female chakra:

organs mental and psychological areas possible physical disorders
seventh chakra  


muscle system




nervous system


skin and bones


pineal gland

lacking trust in life


gaining attitudes, values, moral and courage


humanitarian fields




lacking concept of the entire patterns in life



genetic disorders




bone cancer


multiple sclerosis


degenerative disease of the nervous system


As with all the other chakras there are different ways to strengthen and balance the seventh chakra, such as:

  • on the energetic level through physical exercises or yoga
  • with the help of body-energy-work
  • with the help of meditation
  • on the emotional level through talking therapy, family settings, kinesiology, astrological sessions, etc,
  • on the mental level through positive thinking, mental training, etc.
  • on the spiritual level through transformation of karmic blockages, or oaths with the help of spiritual tools