10 Steps for women who finally want to fulfil their potential
James Gordon says that there is no such thing as people with or without willpower… There are people who are ready for change, and those who are not.
Fear of change … who does not know this? No matter whether it is a job change, a separation, a move, or a stylistic type of change. Many people are scared of not being able to cope with change, of making the wrong decision, or being criticized or rejected by others due to change.
Then there are the changes which are beyond our control. They strike us from the outside, such as being abandoned, losing a dear person or being faced with an illness.
Life is like a string of pearls full of changes
However, let’s stick with those changes we can decide upon, we can influence and consciously control.
It might be worth remembering that our life is a continual stream of changes, no matter whether we want them or not. They are either the result of certain stages in life, such as
pregnancy – birth – infancy – childhood – puberty – adulthood – death,
or own decisions – and, of course changes of other people who we are closely connected with.
How to successfully handle changes
Some changes are rejected from the start, and therefore, blighted, before they have even been well thought out. It would be helpful to write down the pros and cons to gain an overview of the possible effects of a change. Sometimes our gut feelings play a trick on us, but as soon as we put the facts down, our fears are shrinking.
Sometimes life is almost crying out for change but we simply do not want to think about it, due to the strain and consequences. However, many of the things we do not change, will be changed through others … not always to our advantage!
Everything has got its time quality, therefore the right time for change is very important. If we postpone changes, we might miss the ideal time, which consequently results in more effort or hassle. We may be pushed into a passive role which stops us from being able to make our own decisions.
It may also occur that we blandish situations that should be changed, until we find no real need for change anymore. This head-in-the-sand policy only offers supposed protection for a short time, but may end up in a real mess.
We have often said to others, ‘I can’t’, whereas we really mean ‘I don’t want to, leave me alone!’ Which brings us back to the quotation at the start. Of course, there are situations, where we have been weakened, or we are mentally not capable of generating changes on a large scale. But we should honestly question ourselves as to whether we are using an excuse.
Needless to say, there are situations in life which confront us with changes, we cannot, or we can hardly influence. However, all the really important decisions may turn our life upside down, but, in the long term, contain the chance of a much better quality in life, or a personal developing step. Believe me, I know what I am talking about!